Makeup?
But it was not even 7 AM. Right, it was television after all. I had to
look my best even though I was representing a community of people who struggle
every day and every night with a degenerative, chronic and incurable disease.
It somehow seemed terribly ironic. Add to that the fact that I was
trying to cope with the worst cold I had had in years, requiring a steady
supply of tissues ready at hand. I had this pronounced fear that on live
television I was either going to start sneezing (which I had managed to do 15
times in a row - a personal best - before I left my hotel room) or fail to
recognize that I was dripping excretion from my numb red nose. How was I supposed to look relaxed and communicate
effectively in the four-minute "interview" jammed in before the news?
Fortunately, while we waited in the green room with Sue (my Parkinson's New
Zealand support person) I remembered some of my media training. "Don't
let the interviewer control the agenda. Make sure you get across your
message regardless of where the interviewer is going." Of course, that's
easy to say when you know what questions are going to be asked, but in this
case I walked onto the set, shook hands with the two hosts, sat down, dabbed at
my nose and sniffed a little to make sure, then heard somebody say, "3, 2,
1. Rolling". A little more than three minutes later (they were short of time
in order to hit the news at the top of the hour) and it was all over. No
retakes, edits, outtakes or "can we try that again?" I waited
patiently until a pause for commercials, got up, shook hands with my hosts (I did
not even remember their names) and was escorted back to the lobby and outside.
It was not until after it was all over and I was reviewing the
video online that I actually thought about what I had just done. Apart from a
little tremor, I looked relaxed and "normal", not at all like a person
with Parkinson's. How can you communicate that sometimes you shake so badly
you can't get food to your mouth or drink a glass of water? How do you tell
people that you never sleep through the night and wake up exhausted most
mornings? How do you explain the embarrassment and confidence-crushing aspects of
the disease? For some people with Parkinson's there is freezing of gait
resulting in one being unable to move, looking more like a statue than a real
person. For others it is flailing about, twisting and writhing uncontrollably
with dyskinesia (a result of the medication), resembling a person possessed. So
the uninformed public remains ignorant about Parkinson's because makeup and
self-control for a three-minute spot may leave the impression that the disease
is "not all that bad". I suppose that's the nature of the myopic
beast called television.
Radio New Zealand presented a different problem. No makeup was involved, and I was given about 15-20 minutes. But since most of the symptoms of Parkinson's
can only be seen, not heard, how do you effectively communicate what it's all
about? For some reason I was disappointed in the radio interview. Perhaps it was
the fact that the interviewer, like me, was suffering from a bad cold, except that
he was working from home and was not actually present in the room. More likely
it was my discovery that the interview had been taped rather than being live, thereby
giving room for editing without my involvement. However, I took some solace
from the realization that both radio and TV have a disadvantage when dealing
with Parkinson's. Who is going to question the legitimacy of such a devastating
disease? (Okay, besides Rush Limbaugh)
The dilemma remains. If people with Parkinson's actually confront
the public with a full display of their symptoms, sharing the painful and
functionally debilitating symptoms, as well as the soul-crushing non-motor
aspects of the disease, they will doubtless be accused of acting (as was
Michael J Fox) and/or looking for sympathy. So, in large part, the public knows
little about PD. For most, it remains a relatively unimportant affliction of the
elderly; shaking and little more. All the more important to take every
opportunity to correct the fallacies and misunderstandings.
A great post and so true. How does one communicate via TV and Radio such a complex disease in a way that gets the message across effectively. As you say what most people know of Parkinson's (and myself as well until recently) are the visible signs. And commercial TV has it's issues making it difficult in a "sound bite" world to communicate without being accused of "acting" or manipulation.
ReplyDeletePS. You had asked me to give you an update on my situation in a previous comment to one of your posts. Well after my July 4th appointment with my neurologist ( Dr. Stephan Botha in Abbotsford ) I have good news and bad news. Thegood news is he knows what I have, the bad news is that he agrees with my GP, that it is stage 1 Parkinson's Disease.
Richard;
DeleteThank you for your comment. I also appreciate your forthright and transparent blog entry in your own blog. I think you struck kind of balance you wanted; realistic but positive.
Let's get together when I get home at the end of July.
Bob
Hi Bob,
ReplyDeleteStan just sent me the link to your NZ interview. The public media, with its time limitations, and therefore profound comprehension limitations, is quite the beast to ride! Despite your blog description of how the interview experience felt, you carried your message so well. Hopefully it will get your name out, and those who desire the necessary depth and connection can seek out your blog...where you are free to represent yourself as fully and with as much depth as you wish. It's a great blog. Meantime, wishing you all that you need for your courageous journey...we're cheering for you!
Melody at Hallmark
Melody;
ReplyDeleteThank you for your encouraging words. I must admit that there are times when the Enemy seems too formidable to fight. It is the kind words of others that often sustain me, and you have always been an encouraging voice.
Bob
Bob,
ReplyDeleteGreat post! I'm very interested in how the media portrays PD and how people like you work with the media in spreading awareness. I'm working on a research project about PD in the media, and I am taking it on the road to different support groups. The project has a focus on celebrities like Michael J. Fox, especially with his appearance on shows like Scrubs, The Good Wife, Rescue Me, and Curb Your Enthusiasm. Have you seen these, or any of the interviews he's done? What do you think of them?
Keep up the good work!
Jenny